Give yourself a compliment
Even though it may sound narcissistic, giving yourself a compliment can be a great way to increase your self-confidence level. After you wake up, sit down for a few minutes and try to compliment yourself – you will notice that your mood will change automatically. Look in the mirror and say that you look good or simply count your blessings.
Complimenting yourself will make you feel more comfortable with the person you are and gradually start to love yourself. According to medical experts, people who have a higher self-confidence level are more likely to be happier and mentally healthier. Being happy with the person you are will make you become a better person and it can be really good for people around you.
In fact, it has been proven that people who love themselves and are always in a good mood are more likely to easily develop interpersonal connections and social skills because in general, society cherishes the presence of these people.
Don’t blame other people
Blaming other people for our mistakes is one of the biggest and most common mistakes that people make to feel better. Unfortunately, blaming others not only makes you feel good at that moment and hurt others, but it also leads to inner frustrations in the future (and it will cost you more in the long run).
The psychological explanation is that sometimes people need to blame others for their mistakes because their minds are trying to find an explanation for a certain behavior, otherwise they would have to face the harsh reality. Moreover, there are some people who can’t accept that they are wrong or have done something wrong.
According to Talkspace provider Cynthia Catchings, LCSW-S, “blame is like another defense mechanism. We could call it denial or projection because it helps us preserve our sense of self-esteem or pride by avoiding awareness of our own issues. We can think of it as a tool we use when we’re in attack mode.”
Blaming others for your mistakes can lower their self-esteem and you can also lose your friends. “Typically, when we engage in this behavior, people around us might start to resent us or even walk away,” says Catchings. “Another result can be the loss of communication or trust. People who are victimized start to feel like they are walking on eggshells and avoid communicating to prevent having to experience the blaming.”
So, if you want to become a better person, you should accept and assume your mistakes. It’s perfectly normal to make mistakes because this is how we learn and progress, but you have to recognize when it’s your fault.