Dating was never easy and it always had its challenges. I think we can all acknowledge that first dates can be very awkward and stressful, but there are also fun and exciting times, like the first kiss, the butterflies, the “I can’t wait to see you again” moments…
All in all, dating is an experience totally worth it, firstly because you get to meet new people, create new memories and have fun. Secondly, because it gives you the opportunity to meet the person you’re going to spend your life with. However, finding that one person can be very complicated and might take a lot of fails and broken hearts.
When it comes to dating, women can be mysterious and men find it very hard to understand. Women often have their “secrets” that help them prevent getting their heart broken (most of the time).
Read on to find the 10 things most women do, but don’t like to admit.
1. We always do a little research before our first date
Most women can act like Sherlock Holmes when it comes to finding out new things about a man they like. We make sure to check every social media account you own. We usually start with Twitter to find out if you’re funny, then we move to Instagram to discover your hobbies, whether you like to travel and what food you like, Facebook helps us learn more about your music taste and political beliefs, and finally, LinkedIn because we also want to know where you work.
Most women don’t like to admit they do all those things because men often misinterpret it as stalking. It’s not stalking, we just want to have a little background information about you, before going to the actual date.
“We live in the information age. We check out reviews before picking a restaurant for lunch; it’s perfectly normal to be curious about a date, and for safety reasons, it’s a good idea to poke around a little, ” explains Trish McDermott, dating coach at Meetopolis.com and founding team member of Match.com
2. We tend to compare ourselves to your ex
Doing the research I’ve previously mentioned also comes with its downsides, especially if we come across an old photo with your ex, and we usually do. And most of the time, that can contribute to a lot of negative thoughts and comparisons that can result in a lack of self-confidence.
According to McDermott, by comparing yourself to others, we tend to lose sight of who we are. She also encourages women to acknowledge their worth. After all, the woman he dates is no longer in his life, and he’s now interested in you, so comparing should be off the table.
3. We always tell a friend where we’re going
This is a safety net that most women like to have just in case something goes wrong and that man is a psycho. And this is especially important if you find your dating partner online, on social media, or other dating apps.
So just to be sure, most women share with a close friend or a family member their date’s name, where they are going, and when she’s expected to be back home. By doing this, we feel safer and more relaxed because we know that someone has our back.
4. If we don’t like you, we’ll come up with an excuse
If your dating partner suddenly cancels, maybe she just doesn’t like you. Most of the time, women don’t like to hurt your feelings so they come up with a plausible excuse to get out of plans.
At one point or another, the majority of women found themselves in situations where coming up with an excuse was the only way out. If the first date didn’t go so well and we already know we don’t want to see you again, we’ll probably say something like “I’m very busy right not with work and everything, I just don’t have time for a relationship.”
This can get even more difficult if the man you’re talking to is too persistent. Surprisingly, there are men that just don’t get take the hint and have no idea that you’re just not interested in them, and they will continue to ask you out until you run out of excuses. But let’s hope that’s not the case for you.
5. We like to check your Zodiac sign for compatibility
It’s not like we believe everything we read about Zodiac signs, but we do like to know if our astrological signs are naturally compatible. So if you’re an Aries and we’re a Virgo, chances are it’s not going to work, and we will blame it on your zodiac sign.
According to psychic medium Imelda Green, “Some relationship-crushing disasters can be avoided simply by finding someone who is a compatible match with your particular zodiac sign.”
6. We like to give you a code name
Most women like to give the man they’re dating a code name that can be anything from the place we first met “gym crush,” something about your appearance “athletic guy” or about your job “HR guy.”
We can be even more creative and come up with a lot of funny code names that only our close friends will know about.
7. We always go to our best friends for advice
No matter what age we are, we still like to talk to our friends about the men we date. And we tend to share everything, from the things we like about you, to what expectations we have about the date or whether or not we kissed at the end of the night.
But as we share the good news, we also tend to share the bad ones. So everything you do something wrong, you can be certain that our best friends know about it. And they secretly hate you if what you did is truly wrong.
After all, it’s true what they say, even if your girlfriend forgives you, her best friend never will.
8. We can’t decide on what to wear
Because we want to look good for you and make a good first impression, we always have problems deciding what to wear. So most of the time, we try several outfits before deciding which one to wear.
Also, if we still can’t decide, we ask our female friends for advice. If we wanna look sexy, we choose a little black dress. If we want to look serious, we make sure not to show any skin. And don’t get me wrong, I know we can be very excessive, but most women are overthinkers, so it makes sense inside our heads.
9. We pay close attention to how you treat the staff
If you’re not treating the staff as nicely as you should, then a second date is never going to happen. And believe me, most women will agree with me on this. How you treat others says a lot about who you are as a person.
10. We like to fill in our friends through text messages
As I previously mentioned, women tell their best friends everything. They’re probably very curious to find out every little detail about how the date went, so we make sure to send a text here and there to keep them informed.
If you see us going to the bathroom, you can be certain that we’re going to say something like “Don’t worry, he’s safe” to our friend.