9 Things You Should NEVER, Ever Discuss During Thanksgiving

Don’t talk about other people’s relationship status 

Talking about other people’s relationship status can be quite uncomfortable, especially for those who are still single or divorcing. Some people want to keep their life private, and talking about their relationship at the Thanksgiving dinner can be a mistake. 

Of course, you can ask others about their relationship, but not when you are at a family reunion and put that person on the spot about their privacy. 

According to Shrein Bahrami, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Evolve Wellness Group, people celebrate this holiday mostly because they want to spend some quality time with their loved ones and feel good and if someone is going through a difficult time, then their mood can change automatically because you remind them about it. In some cases, they won’t accept your invitation because they know that you will make them feel uncomfortable by constantly asking about their relationship status.

That being said, whether you are the host or a guest, don’t ask anyone else about their relationship status, how their marriage is going or other things that might make them feel awkward and put you in an embarrassing situation. Also, keep your relationship problems private until Thanksgiving is over. It’s called a ‘private life’ for a reason.

You should avoid talking about body image

Whether or not you are proud of your body, you are on a diet or not, you go to the gym regularly and so on, you should avoid approaching these topics at the Thanksgiving dinner. Talking about body image is a sensitive topic that can make other people feel bad and ruin their mood. 

Let’s not forget that this amazing holiday is about honoring the harvest. People are proud of themselves because they have worked hard around their households and now is the time to rest and enjoy the fruits of their labor. In general, during Thanksgiving, people prepare a lot of good food, cook their favorite recipes, and include the turkey, of course.

So, you should enjoy these traditional dishes without talking about weight gain, cellulite and so on, or at least try to keep it to yourself, because you will make other people feel uncomfortable and they will stop eating. 

Examples of conversations that should be avoided include: “I can’t eat because I’m on a diet and I want to lose a few extra pounds because I think I am too fat.”, “People should stop eating so much especially when they have already started to gain weight, I don’t understand why they are still eating too much during holidays.”, “Hey, you have to go to the gym after this holiday, because you ate a lot!” Even though you think you are joking, it can hurt others.