“For every stable, open relationship with solid rules that are adhered to very well there are 10 more train-wrecks in action.
“I’ve noticed some interesting patterns. Many times, the man initiates it, but the wife / girlfriend ends up getting way more than he does, and it alters the dynamic of the relationship considerably.
“The ones that seem more solid and lasting in the open state are the fully open ones. That is: multiple full on relationships, not just fucking around. (I suspect that this is because both people are truly committed to the lifestyle, and not just satisfying urges).
